You know Trace McSorley Ravens Jersey , this would be a great business if it weren't for having to deal with people all the time?
OK, so maybe I've exaggerated things a bit, but we've all certainly heard that saying before. Why does that sentiment ring true for so many folks? Obviously it's because of all the people challenges we're presented with in our business. Virtually every one of my clients over the years has brought up the subject of dealing with difficult people. There's no escaping the fact that they come into everyone's lives at one time or another. Sometimes they come in the form of an unhappy or hard-to-get-along-with client, customer, or co-worker. Sometimes they're a person we report to or someone who reports to us. And sometimes they're just someone we happen to come in contact with like a store clerk. Whoever they are Iman Marshall Ravens Jersey , they can cause anxiety, frustration, concern, or anger in us and can even cause us to become like them ? someone difficult to deal with.
Sometimes the best way to deal with a difficult person is to avoid them altogether ? give them wide berth. But often we don't have that option. The difficult person is someone we simply have to deal with. Most people would say that in those situations, we have three options. These options are: 1) Try to change ourselves Ben Powers Ravens Jersey , 2) Try to change the other person, and 3) Resolve to tolerate the situation ? basically decide to put up with them. I'd like to suggest that there's a fourth, very effective option as well ? perhaps the most effective of the four options. Let's spend some time discussing these four options.
1) Try to Change Ourselves Your first instinct might be, ?Why should I be the one to change?? In fact quite often you'll find that to be an appropriate response! Often there is nothing about what we do or say to cause the other person to be difficult. We are usually not the catalyst for their behavior. But sometimes we are. Haven't you had people in your life who just rubbed you the wrong way? You're fine around pretty much everyone else, but around a particular person Justice Hill Ravens Jersey , you get defensive, anxious, angry, and difficult to deal with? I think we all have. If you've had people in your life who cause you to become difficult or obstinate, then doesn't it stand to reason that you may be causing that same reaction in someone? It's in situations like this that we have to examine our own behaviors and reflect on whether we're the cause. Frequently however Miles Boykin Ravens Jersey , we're blind to our shortcomings. We don't see what we don't see. How do you find out whether you're the cause of the other person's difficult behavior? Option 4 holds the answer.
2) Try to Change the Other Person In Option 1 ? Try to Change Ourselves ? our initial instinct was to ask, ?Why should I be the one to change?? Our first reaction was one of justification. Basically saying, ?I'm not the one with the problem?? Guess what happens when we try to change the other person? You got it. They have the same reaction we would have had. Everyone feels justified in their behavior. No one intends to behave arbitrarily or irrationally. We always have a reason for acting the way we do. Attempting to force the other person to change doesn't work. Just ask any spouse! No one will change anything about themselves until and unless they choose to do so. Option 4 holds the answer.
3) Decide to Put Up with Them ?Tolerate it.? ?Just deal with it.? The only thing that accepting things the way they are accomplishes is to postpone a confrontation. Although this course of action (or inaction) appears to avoid a confrontation, in fact what it does is eliminate any chance of dialogue and replaces it with a certain confrontation down the road. Even though this path is frequently taken, it has some far-reaching unhappy consequences. Let's talk about how it affects you Jaylon Ferguson Ravens Jersey , the other person, and your team.
You You end up spending valuable energy by deciding to tolerate this person. It takes energy to deal with a poor situation ? energy which you need for other, more positive and productive efforts. In addition, by tolerating this person, your attitude suffers. Although we decide to tolerate it Marquise Brown Ravens Jersey , we don't ignore it. By dwelling on the thing that irritates us so much, we give it fuel and we diminish our attitude. If you're successful in your business you already know the importance of maintaining a positive attitude. Tolerating something that reduces our level of energy and our attitude is unacceptable.
The Other Person
Think about this for a minute? No one sets out to do a poor job. Everyone starts out intending to do a good job. They have a positive attitude and high aspirations. Nevertheless, sometimes things change. They become complacent, lose interest, and experience a drop in attitude. Why is that? Has that ever happened to you? I believe it's happened to each of us at some times during our career(s). If you reflect back to that time Mark Andrews Ravens Jersey , you'll find one of two reasons for this shift. One reason is that the work you were doing really didn't interest you. One of the great revelations in life is that just because you're good at something doesn't mean you enjoy it. Think about the implications of this. It means that even if we're really good at the work we do, we may actually find it unenjoyable. Do you think that situation would affect someone's attitude? You bet. Work would become unfulfilling. The other reason we might have become complacent, lost interest, and experienced a drop in attitude is that we became disillusioned with someone or something. Perhaps our boss or our company did something which lacked integrity or perhaps what we thought was true turned out not to be. In situations where integrity is an issue is there a way to make things better? Not in the near term. Maybe never. In situations where the reality of the situation is a different one than was first imagined, is there a way to make things betterNatural . Wholesale Jerseys China Wholesale NFL Jerseys Wholesale Jerseys Free Shipping Cheap Hats Wholesale Jerseys Wholesale Soccer Jerseys China Wholesale NHL Jerseys Wholesale NBA Jerseys Wholesale MLB Hats Wholesale Soccer Hats
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